How best to help someone who is grieving

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Many a time we do not know what type of support or comfort to give a family or friend who is grieving. The best support to give someone is as follows:

  • Acknowledge the situation.
  • Express your love and concern for the person who is grieving.
  • Offer your support e.g. chores and roles.
  • Ask the bereaved person how they feel and listen to them.
  • Be there.
  • Listen some more.
  • Give reassurance and hope without minimising the loss.
  • Offer to help with errands.
  • Avoid telling the person to be strong.
  • Continue to offer the support after the first shock.
  • Check with the person on anniversaries e.g. death, marriage, birthdays of the deceased.

“Wacha niKwambie”

September 2018 – Life must go on

Coping with loss and grief – emotional and spiritual wellness

DISCLAIMER: The thoughts contained in this article are obtained from research. The writer is not a mental health specialist but is curious to learn on how to deal with personal loss and grief. The series “Life must go on” is a spiritual and emotional wellness journey in this month of September 2018 by the lead writer and a guest contributor to the blog. For professional help in coping with loss and grief please seek the help of an accredited and duly registered mental health specialist or counsellor.

Kwambie Nyambane
Kwambie Nyambane
Kwambie Nyambane is a Sales Force Effectiveness Manager in a leading bank in Kenya 'by day', a passionate inspirational blogger 'by night'; and a wellness enthusiast championing healthy lifestyle choices. The founder and lead writer of this blog is a Bsc. Food Science and Post -Harvest Technology graduate of the Jomo Kenyatta University of Agriculture and Technology, Kenya, holds an MBA in Marketing from the University of Nairobi and is currently pursuing a PhD in Business Administration from the University of Nairobi. Kwambie is a member of Bloggers Association of Kenya. She believes in taking life with a big spoon, seeing the cup always as half full, and enjoying the scenery in this journey called life. Kwambie is daughter to Lilly Moraa and James Nyambane, mother to one beloved son nicknamed "The Champ"; sister to Marci and beloved auntie to the A & Z girls. She and her family make Nairobi City, Kenya their home. This blog is dedicated to her parents Moraa and Nyambane for their awesome inspiration in her formative years, for being her pillar of strength through life, her siblings Marci and Joash, and to her son "The Champ" and her nieces who represent the generation that came after her. May the nuggets contained in this blog serve many generations, the world over to come.

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