Long, after Valentine’s Day gone that that love remains strong… that is they type of romance most of us aspire for.
What can couples do to stay connected, in love, keep the romance throughout the year? That is the question we at ‘Wacha niKwambie’ blog are asking ourselves this week?
Compliment and show appreciation to your partner. Remember that if you do not compliment or show your appreciation to your partner there is someone out there who will. Gift your partner.
Do you share in responsibilities and tasks? Is there a fair share of balance ‘in chores and bills at home for example? Dissatisfaction and resentment in many relationships arises when one partner begins to feel that they are giving a lot without receiving anything or very little in return.
Are we supporting our partners in their life’s goals and aspirations? Are you your partner’s greatest cheer leader or vice versa. Sadly, most romance comes to an end when one begins to feel alone, lonely. “Me against the world” kind of feeling.
Physical intimacy – holding hands, cuddling, hugging, kissing. Making love. Sex is very important for those who wish to remain in a romance.
Communicate. Talk to each other. Ask each other how each other’s day was. Communicate your desires. Talk about your future plans and goals. Instead of watching TV, reading the newspaper, poring over your phone, take the time to speak to your partner.
Spare some time for each other during the week. Do fun activities together. Date nights or lunch dates. Surprise your sweet heart at work with lunch from their favourite take away restaurant, flowers or chocolate. This should not only be reserved for Valentine’s Day. Send each other racy and sexy texts during the day or when separated by time or distance to keep the romance fire aglow.
True Love is about turning a blind eye to small transgressions sometimes. This however does not mean staying in an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. In such a situation, leave. Separate immediately.
Be the type of person that stays positive in life no matter what you are going through as a couple in life. Toxic and negative people generally weigh a relationship down.
Self care and self love. When one commits to a relationship they come as a complete person. A relationship does not make you a whole person. A relationship compliments you as an individual. For this reason take care of yourself as an individual. What are your hobbies, skills and passions in life? Nurture them. Ensure that you are physically groomed; visit the barber shop, salon, invest in some good perfume/cologne and inner garments. Make sure that you are well turned out if not for your partner but in the bare minimum for you.
Finally plan for the future together and for those of faith pray together.
Wishing you all our esteemed readers that ‘Valentine’s Feeling’ for the rest of the year as the month of love now comes to an end.
© Kwambie Nyambane,
This February 2019 is a dedication to all those who have offered my family and I love and support during the tumultuous period these past few months. You did not have to but you did. All the articles for February 2019 in this blog are also in loving memory of my beloved brother; Joash Nyambane Agwata (19th March 1982 – 10th September 2018), thank you for the 36 awesome years of love of a brother Joash. Death is not the end of a relationship. You will always be my “baby sweets” brother and I will always be “big sis” Rest in peace bro. Forever love, Lissie.