I ain’t too old for some good lovin’ – Some tips for a healthy sex life after turning 40

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I ain’t too old for some good lovin’ – Some tips for a healthy sex life after turning 40


If you are in a relationship with an older adult and you find them haaaawt, reassure them that they are still attractive. If they have made an effort to dress up, smell good, work out, commend them for their efforts and affirm that they are still attractive to you. If they have done something well at work or in their business or whatever they have put their mind into celebrate them. Make time out for dates, dates are not only for younger people, those who are single and searching dates are awesome for older adults and those in long term relationships too. Show the older adult partner in your life affection when you are together with them.

Society celebrates youth, but we need to celebrate older adults especially our romantic partners that make an effort to be the best versions of themselves.




“Embrace the changes in your body. Love your body and care for your body!”


God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.



Make a deliberate effort for sex and intimacy with your partner. Studies show that the more sex you have with your partner, the greater the intimacy you have and the more intimacy you have with your partner the more and the better the sex, leading to a “vicious” cycle of relationship happiness.

Make your sexual needs and fantasies known to your partner.

Make sex fun. Do not think of your age as you engage intimately with your partner but instead be lost in the moment. Break out from the routine of positions, style and physical locations.

Engage in new and mutual activities with your partner. Spend more time together.

Travel together. Go on a trip together.

Snuggle together after sex.

Morning sex!!! Have more of it. Not only are testosterone and energy levels higher in the morning, but the increase in oxytocin levels keeps you and your partner bonded throughout the day while the endorphins boost your mood,”

Give massages to each other. Have a bubble bath together. Do not underestimate the power of both.

Share romantic gestures.

Say “I Love you more.”

Work through conflict.

Be on the same page financially as financial distress is a great cause of relationship break down for the older couple and inevitably leads to a terrible sex life if nay at all.



The truth of the matter is that we are physical beings undergoing a spiritual experience. For most human beings the first and most basic level of sexual attraction is the physical appearance and then you experience someone’s mind and spirit and fall in love with them. Sex is a physical activity that entails energy and a certain level of physical fitness. Physical fitness is key for a healthy sexual life, all the more as we grow older and our bodies begin to age.

Trying our optimum best to take care of our physical body is best cultivated at a young age and which progressively becomes a lifestyle, but it is never too late to be mindful and to work on ones physical fitness.

The following are some pointers on physical fitness that affect sexual performance as we grow older, as we go beyond the big 40 birthday.

  1. Have an in depth consultation with your doctor on medication that you may be taking that affects your libido.
  2. Get comfortable positions when enjoying a moment of sexual intimacy with your partner. Sex is not meant to hurt.
  3. Explore medical options for sexual problems.
  4. Practice safe sex, ALWAYS! STDs affect people of all age groups.
  5. Get enough sleep.
  6. Adopt a healthy eating lifestyle. For example Reduce amounts of sugar, unhealthy fats in your diet increase your uptake of fruits and vegetables.
  7. Exercise is paramount. Blood flow is vital for sexual organs to function, whatever you can do to improve the health of your heart will improve your sex life.
  8. Annual medical Wellness check ups are now mandatory.

This brings an end to the month long focus area, “I ain’t too old for some good lovin’, a focus on sexual wellness for the older adult where we looked at the benefits of sex, dispelled myths to do with sex and the older adult, learned of factors that hold us back from enjoying a fulfilling sexual life as older adults and finally what we NEED to do for more sizzling moments in the bedroom.

“Wacha niKwambie”

July 2019 – “I ain’t  too old for some good lovin’”

A focus on sexual wellness for the older adult


Kwambie Nyambane.

August 2019

Kwambie Nyambane
Kwambie Nyambane
Kwambie Nyambane is a Sales Force Effectiveness Manager in a leading bank in Kenya 'by day', a passionate inspirational blogger 'by night'; and a wellness enthusiast championing healthy lifestyle choices. The founder and lead writer of this blog is a Bsc. Food Science and Post -Harvest Technology graduate of the Jomo Kenyatta University of Agriculture and Technology, Kenya, holds an MBA in Marketing from the University of Nairobi and is currently pursuing a PhD in Business Administration from the University of Nairobi. Kwambie is a member of Bloggers Association of Kenya. She believes in taking life with a big spoon, seeing the cup always as half full, and enjoying the scenery in this journey called life. Kwambie is daughter to Lilly Moraa and James Nyambane, mother to one beloved son nicknamed "The Champ"; sister to Marci and beloved auntie to the A & Z girls. She and her family make Nairobi City, Kenya their home. This blog is dedicated to her parents Moraa and Nyambane for their awesome inspiration in her formative years, for being her pillar of strength through life, her siblings Marci and Joash, and to her son "The Champ" and her nieces who represent the generation that came after her. May the nuggets contained in this blog serve many generations, the world over to come.

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