We have our parents, children, friends and sometimes even colleagues whose presence we frequently appreciate in our lives. Yet still there is a group of people that we frequently take for granted especially as soon as all the growing up has been done; as soon as the fighting and bickering and sharing of hand me downs has come to an end – our siblings. I have been blessed to have two siblings in this life; a sister and a brother whom I would go out on a limb for. I have also come to realize that this bond is for eternity as our only brother passed on a year ago this September. He is still so much under my skin and is forever counted as my brother.
Enter the month of September 2019 in this blog where we will be musing on sibling bonds and then moving on swiftly to something my brother really enjoyed doing- cooking. We will be sampling restaurants that offer delightful African cuisine as well as cooking an African
type storm in the kitchen.
So why is it so awesome to have a sibling?
They mark our most enduring relationship.
Most people will never know another human being for as long as they know their brother or sister. Whether they fought constantly throughout adolescence, lost touch for a period of their adult lives or remained incredibly close and connected from day one, their connection to their sibling (or siblings) will always come first in this sense.
“The sibling relationship is life’s longest lasting relationship, longer, for the most of us by a quarter of a century, than our ties to our parents,” wrote Stephen Bank and Michael Kahn in The Sibling Bond. “It lasts longer than our relationship with our children, certainly longer than with a spouse, and with the exception of a few lucky men and women, longer than with a
You always have a second, an alternative home say when you are in trouble, when you are down or when you are out of your home town but at your sibling’s town. They make awesome teachers. Many of our life skills we got to learn from our siblings as we
were growing up.
As you grow up and begin families of your own, their children and their spouses/partners add to your own family’s network of people to love.
Most of the time they are awesome baby sitters to your kids.
You share responsibilities of caring for senior citizen parents and your home when you are older.
For fashionistas they add to your wardrobe as they take from yours.
They sometimes make good business partners.
For those people of faith, sometimes they make awesome prayer partners!
They make great cheerleaders and motivators to one, sometimes pushing one to excel in areas they thought that they could not.
The list of how having a sibling adds to ones life can never be truly exhausted as this relationship is as personal as each sibling relationship under the sun.
Next week the Wacha niKwambie blog, Kenya takes a look at how to strengthen the relationship between siblings with a focus on adult siblings and how to try and build one where there has never been one.
If you are blessed to have a sibling (s) that is someone to be truly grateful for. So here is a toast proposed – a toast to our siblings!
A lovely week ahead is wished to all.
September 2019 – Family is forever
A focus on sibling bonds
© Kwambie Nyambane,
This Tuesday, 10 th September 2019 marks the first anniversary since my brother passed on. I
thank God for his life and also for all the people who have been the rainbow after the storm
and giving my family a sense of hope, may you and yours be blessed abundantly.