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Grief Therapy CITAM Valley Road – Short Notes

Sunday, 16th December 2018

  1.  As a family pray together
  2. Make random visits to each other
  3. Get a project that takes you back home, where your loved ones rest
  4. Your foundation of past years is what will see you through. Nourish your soul with the word when things are fair and calm as that is what will hold you in the storm
  5. The initial reaction to the death of a loved one for most people is shock. E.g. “My son was not the dying type.” Questioning, Fear and Panic will also follow. Also one experiences pain, a sense of loss, helplessness and frustration. Hopelessness leads to mistrust leads to doubt and to a faith crisis. It may also lead to fear and emotional distress.
  6. Pour out your heart to God. He desires the best for our lives. He is good. Your loved one may be dead but our God is not dead. God has it figured out. He has our back. God knows the number of days given to us.
  7. Death is difficult, death is mysterious, every death is unique.

Factors that affect the recovery process

  1. Closeness and value of the lost relationship
  2. Circumstances surrounding the death.
  3. Social and economic implications of the death.

What is required for recovery?

  1. From shock and denial to acceptance that the person is truly gone
  2. Acknowledge the pain and the burden of grief
  3. Mourn and cry
  4. Appropriate the weight of your own loss
  5. Allow yourself to be comforted by others
  6. Seek for a new balance in life without the presence of the departed person
  7. Seek professional help if necessary
  8. Allow the process of death to shape you into a better person. Believing that something good will come out of it
  9. Use the painful experience to serve God and His people.

Death is new life and new hope that will bring glory to God.

“God will never leave us nor forsake us.”

“Fear not, for I am with you.”

Bible resources

Deuteronomy 34:4

Psalms 62

Romans 8:28

Job 6

2 Corinthians 1Psalms 147:3
Isaiah 41:13


Kwambie Nyambane, December 2018