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Lessons I learned from my mother

Lesson 4: The happiest people do not necessarily have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything they have
From my mother I learned that some of the best memories in life do not entail high expense or glamour. Some of the best things in life are not bought from high end stores. Some of the best memories in life are created by sharing a simple meal of ugali, sukuma wiki and maziwa mala in love. Some of the best outfits that a child could ever wear are from the humble sewing machine or knitting needles of a loving mother.

Lesson 5: There is always enough for one more person and Giving Back to the less fortunate in society
I always suspect that my mother cooked for two extra people, how else would one explain sufficient food for that unexpected visitor. Through my mother I learned that “it is more blessed to give than it is to receive”, the hand that gives is open to more blessings whilst the one that remains closed fisted is not open to blessings. In the current society that we are living in these days where it is more of me, myself and I it calls for going against the tide and being your brother’s and sister’s keeper, looking out for your neighbour and giving back to the less fortunate in society.

Lesson 6: An attitude of gratitude
There is always something to be thankful for.

Lesson 7: Good Nutrition
Yes, I remember my mother putting her foot down that we will not leave the table until we finish the vegetables on our plate, always ensuring that we had a balanced meal. It may have been the influence of her nursing profession or just mother intuition but my mum taught me the importance of eating healthy. How much more important  in this day and age when we are bombarded with foods rich in preservatives, unnecessary fats and sugars.

Lesson 8: Good hygiene

Lesson 9: Get an education, love your job, invest wisely yet stay humble
My mother is a retired nurse and some of my fondest memories is of her starching her white nurse caps every weekend or her majestically walking to from   in  her white nurse uniform in the nearby hospital where she used to work.. She looked so lovely. I especially loved the lacy capes. I would imagine that if I worked hard I too would look as good as her and be as independent as  her when I when I grew up

Lesson 10: Every season of life has its own beauty
One thing I am learning from my mother is to enjoy all the seasons of life as a woman; the 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60, 70s, 80s, 90s and all those who are blessed to live beyond a decade. From her pretty crinkly “‘cucu” face, to every grey flake hair I am learning that every season has its own sorrows and joys. Every decade has its beauty. So if anyone ever stops to ask me now or in future what is my favourite age or decade in life I will answer them that it is the age/ decade I am living now.

Is it really possible to share and write all that I learned and keep on learning from my mother – I  don’t think it is! Some learnings I will forever carry in my heart, as all parents and  their children have those private memories that are embedded safely in their hearts.

It has been an amazing month of March 2019 reminiscing memories with my beloved mother and what I learned from her. Paying it forward as it were by sharing the morsels gained. Age old wisdom as we call it.  Ten lessons learned practically from the experiences of growing up and  being with my mother in the different seasons of her life.I truly hope that this has spurred on your own memories with your mother – as old as you may be you are still your mother’s daughter or son and encouraged us  to be the type of parents that will leave wonderful memories and a positive legacy for our children to carry forth with. Goodbye March 2019, over now to April 2019.

April 2019 promises to be an inspiring month in this blog for all those who are turning 40 or  have already turned 40 or aspire to turn 40 in a month dubbed, “Things I wish I knew when I turned 40.” When we will look at different lifestyle issues of this precious age segment.

Paying it forward to the 40 year olds and above.

Have a great weekend ahead.

“Wacha niKwambie”


Giving Back: I will be my brother’s and sister’s keeper. Paying it forward.

© Kwambie Nyambane,

March 2019


Post Script:

Mummy it is impossible for me to say “Thank you” enough. You are the propelling force in my life. I loved you from when my life was a little heart beat part of you and I will always love you until the end of time.



Ugali, sukuma wiki and maziwa mala is a common delicacy in Kenya that is corn meal, collard greens and fermented milk.