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Emotional and Physchological changes in women at 40

Reevaluation at 40

Many women in their forties belong to the “sandwich generation” that is they are caught up between caring for their children and their aging parents at the same time. These two sets of dependants may be a source of worry and anxiety for the typical forty year old woman.

At 40, may women feel like they at the cross roads of life, young at heart or youthful in appearance  many may be  though with the mention of their ages  society judges them as “old”. Many women within this age group need constant affirmation from their partners that they are still attractive and “hawt”.

The different stressors that plague the forty year old woman’s mind may cause her to suffer from lack of sleep which in turn may make her a moody and irritable person to deal with.

Most women at 40 experience perimenopause which is the few years leading to menopause.  Perimenopause last from two years to a decade. Menopause is the end of the menstrual cycle for women and is a marker for  the end of fertility for a woman’s reproductive life. With perimenopause  comes emotional symptoms that a woman may experience;

– anxiety
– short-term memory loss
– fuzzy thinking
– difficulty multi-tasking
– fatigue
– mood swings
– difficulty concentrating
– anger
– sense of urgency

40 is a good age to be keep it healthy
Turning fortt for many a woman means that she must be more intentional on her lifestyle and health choices. Please refer to a previous blog post .

Exercise is a great way to maintain a healthy weight but also helps the forty year old woman deal with the stressors that were earlier highlighted.

Keeping a journal to track the goals that one wishes to pursue as well as reflect on life are a good way for the forty year old women to cope with stress. Meeting up with girl friends of a similar age group are also a great way to destress and share common experiences of the  physical and emotional changes that one is undergoing.

The best is yet to come
Forty can be one of the best times of a woman’s life both emotionally, sexually and physically and I dare add financially. Studies show that women 40 and older tend to be more confident and know what they like and need than in their earlier years. There is a decrease in dependence and self-criticism and an increase in self-confidence and decisiveness.  40 is also the general peak of a woman’s libido.

Growing older is a blessing denied to many, let us embrace every birthday and make every season of our life the best one yet.


“Wacha niKwambie”

April 2019 – Things I should have known when I turned  40


Kwambie Nyambane,

April 2019