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Online dating for the singleton

Online Dating (also known as Internet dating) is a way for people to find and contact each other through the Internet to arrange a date, usually with the goal of developing a personal and romantic relationship. Some online dating services are free to use but most charge a service fee to access all the available services. Some popular online dating sites include,

To use online dating, a person creates an account on an online dating site, then creates a profile with photos, information about oneself and what they would prefer in a partner. The online dating service uses software to provide the user with matches based on mathematical formulas (algorithms) which match a user with another based on their profile information, preferences, and interests.

While the matching features of online dating services present a user with potential dates, it,s also possible for a user to search for potential dates based on location, hobbies, values, age, religion and other profile information. Users can then make contact with a potential date using messaging or email services provided within the online dating service.

We live in a digital age. The internet is a way to meet potential dates; other than commercial dating sites mutual attractions have formed over internet/ social media sites like facebook,
whatsapp groups, surprisingly even professional social media sites like LinkedIn leading to dates and relationships thereafter.

The thing about online dating is that it is not meant to be the basis of which a relationship is run full time but a way to meet potential dates for a real offline date, commitment and relationship thereafter.

Locally in Kenya I wonder whether a study has been done on online dating, but the trend is common in the West.

Some statistics on online dating;
52.4% Male vs. 47.6% Female
What’s More Important? 64% Say Shared Interest, 49% Say Looks
More Than Half Lie on Their Dating Profile
More Than 7,500 Dating Sites Exist Worldwide

Pros of Online Dating

  • meeting new people who exist outside your social networks where you would otherwise not meet.
  • you can enhance your search to people with similar values.
  • it is convenient for those who do not have time to meet or network with potential partners.
  • good for those who are open minded and with a sense of adventure.


  • mostly used for hook ups that is quick short term sexual encounters and not for long term relationship commitments.
  • over 50% of the people misrepresent their profiles and one may not know ones true character.
  • sometimes the geographical distance of a match may make it difficult to move the relationship a step further.
  • issue of identity theft.
  • too much choice at one go becomes too confusing and one begins to feel like they are shopping for a partner instead of letting nature taking its course.

What is your take on Online Dating?
Next week we end the month long focus on Singlehood with “Parenting as a Single parent&”
“Wacha niKwambie”
February 2020 – Loving me, loving you
On singlehood

Kwambie Nyambane,
February 2020.
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