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Living a life of no regret

Some random musings
“As a former hospice social worker, I learned a lot about regret. It was shocking how many of my hospice patients got to the end of their lives wishing they had lived differently. Many had unresolved relationship issues, unfulfilled dreams, and long-held resentments. My role was to help them come to terms with their regrets while they still had the chance. Some were able to find some resolution, but for others, it was too late, and they died still hanging on to regrets”

This is one quote that I came across as I was researching for this article.

We are indeed living in uncertain times if not health wise, we feel bombarded economically, socially, financially and even spiritually. Our lifestyles have had to change in unprecedented ways. People too have lost their lives in this global corona virus pandemic.

On a personal note, I have found myself reviewing My Life and candidly asking myself – Am I happy with My Life so far or would I be bargaining with My Maker pleading for more time to do all that I had hoped to do were He to call me home today? Enter May 2020’s focus area, “Living a life of no regret” is where the blog is docked at this month of May 2020.

Musing 1 – Follow your dreams
I am having a candid talk with myself on things about my life that I may currently regret. Facing them head on.

Did I follow my heart there?

Did I leave a dream upon the wayside back there ?

Pursue relentlessly what your heart desires. Not your family’s expectations of you, not your friend’s expectations of you, not your employer’s expectations of you, not your client’s expectations of you, not society’s expectations of you but what you want from you. Throw away the rules book of how your life is meant to play out and follow your dreams.

For those of faith, let us commune with our Maker and may we be lead to our higher purpose and calling in life. When you follow your deepest desires in life, then true happiness and fulfillment in life ensues.

Musing 2 – Appreciate the fact that your life is a work in progress
It’s been five months now since I went to my barber and requested him to, “chop it all off”. On a lazy Saturday afternoon last December, I had the big chop. I decided to cut and colour my natural hair for the graduation party for Ezer -Woman Enough class, run by Sophia and Simon Mbevi of Transform Ministries, Kenya that I attended last year to signify the start of a new season of My Life. It was not going to be business as usual in certain profound aspects, something had to give. And give it did!

Every time I notice some level of hair growth like now, I am at the cross roads on whether to grow my hair long again or just cut it and maintain the short low maintenance, no frills look. This has to be the most affordable hairstyle I have ever had.

Over and above that every time I see new growth on my hair line I am inspired that life is not static but dynamic and I can choose to either continue with business as usual or make a fresh start on whatever aspect of My Life that I wish redone.

I am encouraged to never write any aspect of my life off or write off my whole life for that matter.We are works in progress. Any aspect of our lives can be redone.

Back to the hair – niendelee imee, ama niinyoe tena? Uamuzi si wenu, ni wangu na wangu peke yangu. Should I or shouldn’t I trim my hair? The choice to redo My Life is mine and mine alone.

Musing 3 – Appreciate those that you love
My dear friends, tomorrow is not a guarantee. This I am writing from the heart. The mother, father, sibling, relative or friend, or even yourself – you assume will always be here may not always be. Do not procrastinate on showing those that you hold dear how much you do, “Today” because tomorrow may just be too late!

In Africa we have a saying, that if a man delays to show or tell his love to the woman he loves, he will be the one serving water to guests on her wedding day. Let me not be caught “serving wedding guests water on my Beloved’s wedding day”

What other ways can you think of living a life of no regret? – Keep it here for a continuation of the same next week!

‘Wacha niKwambie’
May 2020 – Living a life of no regret.
© Kwambie Nyambane,
May 2020.
Post Script Thankful for my dear mother Mrs. Zibiah Lilian Moraa Nyambane for giving me the gift of life on this Mother’s Day. I love you Mum.