Love, Intimacy & Sex in the times of ‘Rona for couples living together

Building and maintaining a good relationship and sex life with your partner in this times of the corona virus pandemic requires both of you to put in time and effort

Good Communication
Communication is the key to a healthy and active sex life in a marital or permanent relationship, so talk with one another more! Chatting about superficial things can be fun, but remember to go deeper in order to really establish intimacy.

Share your innermost thoughts and feelings with one another regularly
Sexual intimacy is a continuing process of discovery. True intimacy through communication is one of the things that can make sex great.

Share Desires and Expectations
Talk openly and share your sexual desires. Be open and honest about what you want. You don’t want to use this time to be critical of your partner. Just assert what you want in the bedroom and what makes you feel good. Talk with one another about your expectations concerning lovemaking. False or unmet expectations
can hurt your relationship. If your expectations are not being met by your partner, communicate this tactfully and sensitively.

Sex in a long-lasting relationship can deepen and become a richer experience. No matter how many times you have made love to each other, the wonder and awe of mutual attraction can still be there. Yet other ways of increasing the sizzle for couples who live together include;

Become more intentional about your sexual encounters with your partner
That is make time for sex. Set the mood during the day by sending each other messages, phone calls, giving each other flirty alluring looks and so on. Your partner should never feel ignored during the day.

Sex should be initiated by both partners and not just one partner. Both partners should take the responsibility for a good time in bed. Remember women crave to be desired and on the other men crave to be respected. Create romantic moments together e.g. date nights, watching a movie together, taking walks or drives together.

Do not compare your sexual encounters or worse still your sexual partner with what you have watched in media. Every sexual encounter and human being is unique and the quirkiness and imperfections is what makes it real and sweet.

Take good care of your health; physical, emotional, financial and social as these aspects of life are interconnected with how good sex feels.
Special precautions regarding health during these times of the corona virus pandemic If you and your intimate partner live together, already share a bed and show no signs or symptoms of illness, your risk of exposure is unlikely to change if you engage in intimate activity. It is recommended that you continue to engage in diligent hand washing and wash any sex toys used with soap and water for at least 20 seconds before and after use.

If you or your partner who you live with fall within a high-risk group (for example, a healthcare worker or someone with a high exposure to the public), the decision and level of risk you are comfortable with is up to you. There is evidence that individuals may carry the virus before they show symptoms, or may not show symptoms at all. Therefore, it is possible that engaging in close contact and intimacy will spread the virus. There are currently no specific guidelines on this, so it depends on you and your partner’s comfort, risk tolerance and boundaries.

“Wacha niKwambiie”
July 2020 – Love, Intimacy and Sex in the times of Rona
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© Kwambie Nyambane,
July 2020.
Kwambie is not a sexual expert professional, she is a lifestyle writer keen on creating awareness on matters wellness. Seek the professional help of a sexual wellness expert where the need arises.

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